Sitting Among the Waves

Last time I talked about why people quit so easily. There can be many underlying reasons why we end up quitting activities. One major discourager is not being able to apply the skills immediately. We know how much time we’ve invested in learning a skill, but after all those hours we realize that we still aren’t able to put them into use. It is quite understandable to become disappointed in the results to such an extent that it causes us to quit the pursuit altogether.

It’s understandable, and also very regrettable. We humans are controlled by our emotions, and even our own emotions don’t always know whether their advice will be good for us in the long run. They just want to make us feel better and more comfortable by pulling us out of the predicament.

My emotions might tell me to quit boxing if I keep getting my butt handed to me by others month after month. If I never get to see any progress why would I want to continue? Why should I waste any more of my valuable time?

And despite the fact that we often try to press on, most of us end up quitting after enduring for a while. The reason is often nothing more than believing that we’re not good enough. That we don’t have what it takes.

Stop the self-criticism

Let’s say that you’ve read in an article how somebody was able to earn $10,000 in a month after applying a set of online money-making techniques for a period of six months, but you decide to try it only to discover that you’ve managed to collect a mere $4.67 from your AdSense campaign. As soon as you fail to meet your expectations, and fail to repeat what the author of the article was able to accomplish, you make yourself believe that the author was only lucky while you’re just too ordinary a person to accumulate such earnings. And, as a result, you give up.

It’s hard to control your emotions, but you must understand how harmful they can be. It may be difficult to notice immediately, but people are ultimately controlled by the beliefs they adopt. And believe me, it doesn’t take much to develop a new belief… Like when you fail for the first time. Some people just never get over their failures.

Start with low expectations

When our expectations are high, we might never have the patience to ever get that far. When our goals are low, however, they’re easier and faster to reach. It doesn’t hurt to be realistic from the beginning.

It’s awesome to have big dreams, and you definitely should have them, but you should also have smaller short-term goals that are faster to reach than the big ones. Your short-term goals will ultimately take care of acquiring the crystal trophy anyway. If you’re a marathoner, rather than go for the gold medal headfirst, try to first work your way through the lower positions—at your own pace.

Enjoy the process

When you’re a newbie, it means that you’re learning a lot of new things. So try to enjoy it. You’re most likely not going to become a pro in six months. Try to enjoy the fact that you have been lucky enough to be provided with the tools enabling you to work toward your goals. Some people never get the chance. Be thankful for the situation you’re in. No one is (or at least shouldn’t be) expecting you to become successful right off the bat.

Give the process some time, and enjoy doing it. Have those small goals to keep you on track, and try not to bite off more than you can chew. Be comfortable and have trust in yourself. Don’t let yourself believe that you can’t do something because you’ve failed before. Great achievements demand time and effort. Understand that and you’ll do fine.